There isn’t often just one reason that is the cause of a divorce between a couple. There are usually many years or months of underlying issues that bring a marriage to an end. Most married people want desperately to honor their vows and work hard to save their relationship. When one person is having an affair, this can be the final straw that puts stress on a marriage, making it to where the marriage cannot be saved, thus ends in divorce. Divorce help necessary when two people believe their marriage is irretrievably over.
Getting caught having an affair leads many to need divorce help, especially when they experience the following things:
Being lied to in a marriage leads to trust issues that threaten the marriage’s integrity. Any type of infidelity brings about deceit and is a sign indicating divorce. Even when a couple believes that they can work on things after an affair and it isn’t going to cause a divorce, they soon realize the marriage is over. They should seek divorce help after having an affair to explore their options, rather than staying together just for the sake of the children, or because of guilt.
When one person in a couple has an affair, the person being cheated feels extreme disrespect. They also might feel foolish or exposed if it is someone they knew, close to them or the family, that their spouse cheated with. It is very difficult for someone to ignore this feeling because marriage is built on respect. When respect is lost for one another, this is a sign indicating an impending divorce. The best thing is to not let this continue to damage your self-esteem and to seek divorce help from a professional divorce mediator.
Being humiliated is hard to recover from, but especially when it is from someone that promised to love and honor you. When a person feels shame and humiliation, they lose trust in their spouse. The marriage begins to deteriorate even further, making is impossible to recover after an affair. The signs that a divorce is going to happen become even more evident. Looking for ways out of a marriage after having an affair usually end with divorce being the only option. It is hard for people to return to the marriage and pretend that they are not hurt or constantly struggling with the emotional pain after an affair has been realized.
The almost impossible feeling for any person to recover from discovering an affair is disgust with their partner. This is when the marriage is irretrievable broken, and no person can remain intimate with someone that causes them disgust in unhappy marriage that causes them disgust. When a person gets caught cheating and blames others this can create even more contempt. The sordid details that come out after having an affair make it very hard to ignore the signs that indicate divorce is the only option. Reaching out for divorce help from a divorce mediator at Do Divorce Better is a solution.
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Heather Oller is a licensed mental health professional with a Masters degree in counseling and psychology. She is an expert therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Counseling & Conflict Resolution and is a Florida certified family court mediator. She is also a qualified Parent Coordinator. She specializes in conflict resolution and alternative dispute resolution.Schedule Your Consultation