Unless you are leaving a domestic violence situation or your spouse is a child abuser, then one of the goals you will be asked to achieve while working with a divorce mediator in Orlando is a co-parenting agreement. It is important that both you and your ex agree to enforce what is in the agreement.
Many different things can be included in a co-parenting agreement including:
Almost every parent wants what is best for their child. Using a co-parenting agreement helps parents agree to certain rules even when they are no longer living together. Psychologists say this can have several positive effects on children that are vital for their future.
While they may argue, children do better when there are rules. Knowing that the rules are the same between both homes helps them feel loved and creates a feeling of security.
A co-parenting agreement helps children understand what is required of them. The result is that children follow the rules and feel loved. When rules are consistent, children feel empowered to do their best.
Parents set a powerful role model for their children when they learn to still work together despite their differences. Children naturally model what they observe in others. Therefore, they become powerful problem solvers on their own.
When parents work together, then they become powerful role models. Children learn by watching these examples. Then, as they mature, they learn to take the strategies that they saw their parents use and apply them to their own problems that need solving.
Children who grow up where a co-working agreement is enforced grow into mentally and emotionally healthy adults. Even if you do not want to do it for yourself, then do it for your children. After all, they are the most important thing in your life.
Developing a co-parenting agreement is sometimes very difficult. There are many different factors that must be discussed with a person who you do not necessarily agree with most of the time. A divorce mediator in Orlando can help you and your soon to be ex arrive at great decisions. It is far better to work it out with a divorce mediator than having a judge who does not know your children make the decisions. Call Do Divorce Better at 407-992-6110 to get the process started today. Your children are counting on you to make good decisions that will affect the rest of their lives.
Heather Oller is a licensed mental health professional with a Masters degree in counseling and psychology. She is an expert therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Counseling & Conflict Resolution and is a Florida certified family court mediator. She is also a qualified Parent Coordinator. She specializes in conflict resolution and alternative dispute resolution.Schedule Your Consultation