Getting divorced, even if it is your decision, is a major step in life. Chances are that you will have many mixed emotions that you find hard to deal with regularly. This is normal as divorces often require people to create new friendships, move to a new home and start life over again. While you may need professional help to process emotions tied to your divorce, many people find that journaling daily helps them get through this stage of life.
Ignoring your emotions during a divorce can be bad for you emotionally and physically. Keeping those negative emotions built up can cause severe headaches, bring about insomnia, make your stomach hurt and even make it hard to breathe. Writing down your thoughts and emotions can help you process your emotions and help you become a more creative problem solver. Many find it very helpful to start writing without passing any judgment on what they are writing until they feel a sense of release.
Just like learning to ride a bike or play the piano, doing something more often helps you become better at it. The same is true of letting out your emotions. Each time that you write about an emotion that you are feeling, the less hurt you will feel. Over time, many people find that journaling helps them escape from depression and helps them feel normal again.
You know that your friends and family may start to pull away if all you want to talk about is your divorce. Yet, it is nearly impossible to get it off your mind. Your journal will never revoke you for feeling the way that you do. It allows you to release all your emotions, even if you need to release the same emotion a thousand times. Divorce help from friends often fails to take in the many different perspectives that you see.
You know what is best in your situation, but it can be difficult to arrive at a decision because there are so many what-ifs, negatives and other people’s opinions. Making a list of the pros and cons of a situation can help you learn how you truly feel and what is the best answer for you. Journaling often helps you rediscover healthy coping skills that can seem elusive when you are going through a divorce.
Many people find that journaling helps them process what they are feeling allowing them to move on. It is your story, so you have the right to write the ending the way that you want it to be written. You are a powerful individual who can make wise decisions.
Heather Oller is a licensed mental health professional with a Masters degree in counseling and psychology. She is an expert therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Counseling & Conflict Resolution and is a Florida certified family court mediator. She is also a qualified Parent Coordinator. She specializes in conflict resolution and alternative dispute resolution.Schedule Your Consultation